The Do's and Dont's of dating for the modern female
Guys: If you don't like this, look away now.
In another dating article on this site, you will find a general
set of rules than men should follow when dating. In the same way,
women have some general rules that they should contend with when
entering the dating jungle. Now I know everyone is different, so
don't take things too seriously here. There has been some
controversy over some literature published in the USA that lays out
in detail the rules a woman should follow to get her guy (or gal).
Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider's 1995 bestseller "The Rules,"
explains how women should play hard if they want to get their guy. I
can understand why some groups would be hostile about this, but the
fact is that when we grow up, there are a predefined set of dating
rules. What happens is that we forget most of them after the age of
21, and then realize we need to relearn them.
I wish there weren't any general rules, but courtship is a
ritual. There are things that we make happen that excite, stimulate,
create interest and confound. Dating is a long test of
compatibility. Are we perfectly matched? If we just threw ourselves
together, then the chances of long term happiness might be
compromised. And yet previous generations managed to succeed on a
far less complex courtship criteria list. Many arranged marriages
work all too interestingly.
In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we
follow, from the way and timing of eating to the way we behave in
public. The issue here is that when women date, there are some
things that can help them be more successful. If we accept that
dating is a game, then there are rules to that game. There are
winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance, it gives you a
head start. If men know the rules by which you are playing, you may
change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing. Men
love a challenge, so feel free to adapt rules and add them as you
feel inclined.
You can separate rules out into two parts, dating and online
dating. Both areas have distinct rules that a woman should follow
for dating success.
General Dating Rules
- Always look great, whatever your income.
Gorgeous hair and some lipstick with rags will still turn his
head. You have the advantage. You are the woman. Look your best
as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time.
- Never reveal information you don't have
to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.
- Keep dates brief, but your men interested.
Less is always more.
- Try and stay in shape and involve some
fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr.
Right loves your body as much as your mind.
- Let your man pay. If he is interested, he
is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely
in a cab.
- Ensure you receive flowers. If he doesn't
know what a florist is, dump him.
- Never ever sleep with a guy until he has
fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin
everything.
- Always keep a guy waiting and never turn
up early. It is a lady's prerogative.
- Never be available when he wants you to
be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let
him leave a message or two first before replying.
- If he is available Tuesday, you are
available Thursday.
- Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends
are sacred and not available for dates.
- Keep your man standing on quicksand by
shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
- Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will
walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have
to.
- Never ever talk about previous boyfriends,
particularly their prowess in the bedroom. Your ex-boyfriends
are your business only.
- Never assume anything about your date
until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by
looking.
- If any man shows the slightest signs of
possessiveness or insecurity, run like the wind. Life is too
short for boys.
- If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace,
dump him.
- Never talk too much about your father and
how your date measures up in comparison.
- Never ever come across as too available or
too desperate. He will run a mile. He is the one doing the
chasing.
- If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go
get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men
to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone
else.
- You may well have all the bodily functions
of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
- If you want a child, don't mention it on
the first few dates.
- Never ever criticize his mother unless you
want to remain single.
Online Dating Rules
- Always let them come to you, don't chase
them via email.
- Block anyone who annoys you instantly.
- Post the best and most vampish photo you
can find.
- Don't reply to instant messages with
clever opening lines.
- Remain aloof and let yourself be chased.
- Always reply to emails at least 3 days
after receipt.
- Never provide your real email or phone
details.
- Always date safely and protect yourself at
every turn.
- Make sure your login name is stunning and
sexy, as well as enigmatic.
- Do not login for hours on end. Short,
rapid visits are best.
- Do not assume the person you are talking
to is destitute or sad.
- Never ever reply to emails on weekends.
Wait until a weekday.
- Never state how good your sexual
performance is in your profile.
- If you don't want to date married men,
spell it out in your profile.
- A man who doesn't reply to your email
within 3 days should be ignored.
- Make sure your humor levels come across in
text.
- Do not chat to hundreds of men at once.
The delay in replying is a dead giveaway and your Mr. Right will
be off.
- Don't even think about misrepresenting
your size or description. They will find out.
- Come across as cool and sophisticated for
best results
Ladies, always remember that you are a sexy, desirable woman and
the world is your oyster. Always let men do the chasing and always
allow yourself to be the chooser. Always stay safe and never risk
yourself for the sake of attending a date. Always use a safe dating
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